There simply isn't a good word for the concept. Still, smiting such a useful word for one little usage? I'm saddened.

I think you answered your own question (or almost did) when you tiptoed by with "he or she." ;-)

Lol! SonofGroucho, I agree. This is my new favorite username, although we should ask danceswithtrout why he or she doesn't like the word they. I'm simply baffled.

I really must compliment you on your Wordie name!